Comments on: The Weight of “Opportunity” (or, could the music industry ruin my wedding?) http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/ Insight for Independent Artists Wed, 22 May 2013 16:20:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5 By: Cheryl B. Engelhardt http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7796 Cheryl B. Engelhardt Tue, 10 Jul 2012 22:53:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7796 Hi Guitarman. It’s great that you and your wife had such an amazing wedding weekend that you were lucky enough to include a great gig! I think the key is being on the same page and as long as you are, everything will feel right. I am sure that the other comments supporting the honeymoon over the work opportunity are not close-minded but merely a demonstration that they got the article- that my fiancé and I are committed to creating more career opportunities in the future and want to start our marriage out work-free. Of course, post-wedding desires differ for EVERYONE, this is just what we chose to do. Thanks so much for your comment!

]]> By: Cheryl B. Engelhardt http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7795 Cheryl B. Engelhardt Tue, 10 Jul 2012 22:50:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7795 Packing up my mobile composing and recording rig for 3 weeks in a tent in the Tetons for the 4th year in a row- oh it’s possible!

]]> By: Cheryl B. Engelhardt http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7794 Cheryl B. Engelhardt Tue, 10 Jul 2012 22:49:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7794 Love it!

]]> By: Guitarman715 http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7775 Guitarman715 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 14:25:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7775 Point is, this date at Bluebird was already set long before my wedding was. But that same weekend was the only weekend we could do the wedding. So we got married, went to a nice hotel, then the next eve I played in front of friends, fam, and a wonderful audience that was entertained by the fact that I was married the day before! Haha, my wife understood. We had to work the next week anyway so we took our extended honeymoon a month later for a week. A good relationship works together and accepts the other person, and we make it a priority to make time for each other and making that count. It doesn’t have to be the conventional way to be a happy marriage. I’m surprised at all these posts saying that working during the time you want to honeymoon is not having your priorities straight. How close minded can you be?

]]> By: Guitarman715 http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7774 Guitarman715 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 14:16:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7774 I played a gig at Bluebird cafe the day after I married.

]]> By: A&R http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7773 A&R Fri, 06 Jul 2012 21:41:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7773 Just do a showcase in Las Vegas and have a wedding and honeymoon in Vegas….. you must think creatively in both music career and marriage/relationships too! Think! :-)

]]> By: Jim Herrmann http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7771 Jim Herrmann Thu, 05 Jul 2012 17:27:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7771 I like embracing the possibility of and/and rather than either/or. Sounds like the wedding dates are available, and a couple of days after for relaxing. Can you go on the training with him? If you had a big gig, could he not go on that adventure with you? The important thing in a partnership between two people is that they can be in each other’s lives. I don’t know if that is possible for you, but you might consider it.

]]> By: Justin Cash http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7770 Justin Cash Thu, 05 Jul 2012 13:13:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7770 “No success can compensate for failure in the home”
- David O. Mckay

]]> By: Foreverimagesfotography http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7769 Foreverimagesfotography Thu, 05 Jul 2012 12:09:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7769 If you postpone your wedding/honeymoon, etc. now for whatever reason, where do you draw the line? At what point do you put the career on hold to work on the relationship? How ‘understanding’ must the spouse be and for how long?
I was playing constantly years ago, leaving my poor wife at home with the very small children. I was happy, she was miserable. I then. ecame miserable, too. ( as you can well imagine)
I had become the absent father in order to pursue my career.
Only you can decide your future. What price are you willing to pay?
Thanks for not glossing this over and treating it with the respect it deserves.

]]> By: Jerry http://blog.discmakers.com/2012/06/the-weight-of-opportunity/comment-page-1/#comment-7767 Jerry Wed, 04 Jul 2012 15:13:00 +0000 http://blog.discmakers.com/?p=10469#comment-7767 Personally, I think you should have gone on the tour. If your wife knew you were a musician when you got married, then she should know that sometimes those things come up and you have to rearrange things. The money from the tour could have given you more money and you could have gone on a better honeymoon.

Yes, the industry sometimes strains marriages, but if they know about your music going into the relationship, then they shouldn’t hold you back. You can take a honeymoon anytime, but industry opportunities only come around once.

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